Lexi is a competition cheerleader. She has been since she was about 8 years old. She has cheered with 3 National Champion squads.. all girls she has grown up with. Lexi has also struggled with her weight since a young age, as have I. She has always been, what I consider, to be an underdog. She has struggled with her weight since a young age and has dealt with some ridicule here and there. Let me be clear though, she has also always been the kid on the squad to catch people's eyes.. I have always received compliments on her, how adorable she is, how her weight doesn't even seem to exist for her, how she steals the show, etc etc. From judges to coaches to moms from other teams, Lexi has always been an eye catcher. Except to the judges when she tries out for her squad every year. She would always lose points on appearance, even though I have gone through endless effort to make sure every hair follicle and piece of clothing is in place. But... certain people see the good luck belly and then look at the skinny minnies and will take points off her score card. Pretty annoying but whatever. I know my kid is awesome, so whatever to the judges. All of that changed last night though.
Let me take you back a few years. I had my daughter take a class with the woman who has taught me over the years. It was a class on the power of positive thinking. I wanted Lexi to hear these strategies from someone other than me and also give her a piece of who I am and show her how I spend my time when I go off to learn. The instructor asked her what her goal was.. what she would like to manifest, and Lexi said, and I'll never forget it... "I want to be captain!" Of course I thought... "SHIT!!" Because I knew the kind of world she was up against. Even though I knew the talent was MORE than in place. But that's where I went wrong. Apparently though, my daughter paid no mind to that blip in her moms thinking. Thank God. Making her way into the captains circle was never an "out loud" dream of hers though. She remained quiet about it for years.
Fast forward to the present. In the last couple days, while practicing for try-outs, she mentioned ONCE that co-captain could be an option for her this year. And not because there were no other "heavy hitters" to go up against. I, in an effort to protect my daughters feelings in hopes of her not getting let down, advised her not to get her hopes up and just enjoy the season... I did know she would have no problem getting back onto the team... I just didn't want to see her disappointed by not making it in t the captains circle. My mistake. This is the part where I thank GOD she is head strong and doesn't listen to me too often lol. This is also the part where I realized the influence I have had on her and thank sweet Jesus, something has sunk in, even though she is too stubborn to let me in on that secret.
Just a side note, I did cheer my whole life so I did my typical cheer mom thing and advised her on how to go in front of the judges, as I do every year. She gave me the whole, "yea yea mom I know, its not like im going out for captain"... or was she? We go to tryouts.. she performs.. best performance I've ever seen from her, but still I have her pegged as missing the captains circle by 1 or 2 girls.. yes I'm sorry I keep my own scores lol... it occupies my nerves during tryouts. While we were waiting for scoring, we took the pic you see above. I was posting it on facebook saying how my beauty queen and I were waiting for scores. While I'm making my post, they announce the squad. Of course Lexi made it back on. Well, as I'm about to hit "post", they announce the co-captain... " Number 17!"... omg omg its Lexi!!!!!!!!!!! I honestly don't even know what happened next. Time stopped for me. I cried the most ugly cry in front of every single parent of every single child that tried out... and so did she. Our eyes met and we were both hysterical. I feel like it took me forever to make my way to her because we both had tons of people surrounding us and I think I just froze. But finally she was within my grasp and I pulled her away from whoever was hugging her and we stood there holding each other crying hysterical, like you would see in a movie. SHE DID IT!!! And I was proved so very wrong and had never been happier to be wrong in my whole life.
The bottom line here is this, Lexi had a goal. She visualized it. She held on to it. She internalized it. She believed it could be so... and so it became. Sometimes, as parents, we can knock our kid down in an attempt to save them hurt and frustration. But sometimes we may be doing them more harm than good. Luckily, mine was so headstrong she didn't listen to that part. But she did listen to my positive messages. And she made it her own. Encourage your children. If they can think it, they can be it. And so can you... I am not too proud to admit my almost 13 year old daughter taught me an amazing lesson last night. She is my inspiration.. and right now.. she is my hero. A mom told me tonight my daughter is an inspiration to all girls who believe they are unable to attain their goals.. I already knew she was MY inspiration, but to hear she is viewed as that to someone other than me is... well... its hours later and I am still crying so I'll leave you to finish that sentence. Another valuable lesson... even when you think your kids aren't listening... they are. So make sure they are hearing what you prefer for them to hear.
Dream it, think it, believe it... do it! The only thing that stands in between you and your dreams... is YOU! If my almost 13 year old daughter could create her reality, so can you!! Dream big and bold and teach the children of today and tomorrow to do the same!
Blessings, love and light to all...